Do You Have Marriage Problems? Learn How Can You Renew Your Marriage in the New Year?
It’s the New Year. Everyone is making resolutions. Some of us want to lose a little weight or start a healthier diet. Some of us want to get a better job or go back to school. All of these goals are great, but as the love song goes, the loftiest goals “don’t mean a thing, if there’s no one to share it with”.
This is the time of year to put any relationship and marriage problems to rest. Here are a few biblical principles for the New Year to help you and your spouse to forge on with renewed efforts to make any marriage problems a thing of the past.
1. If you are like most people, it has probably felt like it has been a long year. By the time we reach the end of the year, through the grueling pace many of us keep at the holidays, along with all the other ups and downs of life, we are a bit worn out. Our marriages, like us, can get worn out as well. Jesus often took time away to refresh during his ministry. Mark 6:32, Luke 9:10, Mark 1:35 all give us examples of Jesus drawing away to a quiet place, deserted place or place of solitude. This demonstrates an important principle for us. Retreating is not a weakness, but a source of strength. Sometimes a marriage retreat is not only a luxury it is a necessity. Getting away from the noise and clamor of life can allow us to reconnect with God and also with our spouse. Look for a local quiet spot or a remote hideaway. In either case, use the time away to help promote marriage reconciliation and to heal any breaches that may have happened over the course of the past year.
2. Our words can either build up or tear down or marriage. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 tells us “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up….” (NIV). Also in Ephesians 4:29 we are told “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” Make a commitment in this New Year to use your words as marriage builders. Take the time to compliment your spouse and affirm him/her. Use your words to build up your spouse and he/she is sure not only appreciate but also to reciprocate.
3. Put some fire back in your marriage bed! As the years go by we can fall into a rut. The routine and lack of surprise can make us take the gift of intimacy and marriage for granted. Yet the marriage bed shouldn’t be taken for granted. Proverbs 5:19 says “As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love.” (NKJV, emphasis added) The flames shouldn’t be allowed to burn out. We are supposed to be enraptured with our spouse always. So, take some time to reignite the passion!
Following these three simple principles from the Scriptures will not only Improve your marriage but also create a strong foundation off which you can springboard all of your other endeavors for the New Year. A strong marriage is a source of encouragement and support that one needs to conquer to the ups and down of the year to come. Make it your goal this year to create a marriage that helps you to achieve all your other goals.
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