Where is the Love in the Marriage Bed?
We live in an interesting culture. On one hand, American media is replete with images of sex.
There are nearly naked women in every advertisement, from every industry-from beer to entertainment to cars. Popular songs, TV shows and books-i.e. Sex in the City, Fifty Shades of Grey-all prominently feature the abundant sexual escapades of their main characters.
Yet on the other hand, statistics show that in actuality many marriages are suffering from a lack of physical intimacy.
According to USA Today, 20 to 30 percent of men and 30 to 50 percent of women say they have little or no sex drive. According to Newsweek, 15 to 20 percent of couples have sex no more than 10 times a year, which experts define as a sexless marriage.
So what’s wrong?
Although we might view sex as entertaining, we fail to see that a passionate, intimate physical union is a vital and central part of a healthy Christian marriage. A healthy sex life in a Christian marriage is a physical manifestation and indicator of a strong emotional and spiritual connection. Failing to connect physically and creating a sexless marriage is a symptom of a lack of emotional and spiritual connection as well.
When you unite in holy matrimony, you are truly blessed by God.
Your marriage is a gift to be cherished and nurtured, a source of great strength and comfort that can ride out any storm. However, if you find yourself slipping into a sexless marriage, you risk destroying your relationship. The chasm between you will continue to grow until you no longer know one another. At this point, your marriage will crumble until you seek solace in the arms of another or break your union. To find your way back to the love that brought you together, you need to find intimacy once again.
A healthy sex life is a physical expression of the love a husband and wife share with one another.
Each time that you unite with your partner in the marriage bed, your bond grows stronger. You should take great pleasure in the gifts of your bodies and feel no shame in fanning the flames of passion.
The Bible guides couples and truly can be a source of sex therapy if you heed its words. Look to Proverbs 5 V18-19 AMP when it says, "Let your fountain (of human life) be blessed (with the rewards of fidelity), and rejoice in the wife of your youth." Find further advice in verse 19, stating, "Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant doe (tender, gentle, attractive)-let her bosom satisfy you at all times, and always be transported with delight in her love." There is no doubt. God created men and women with the intention that they would bond together and find joy in the bounty of their bodies. You must do the same to have a rich, fulfilling marriage.
If you are suffering a marriage conflict or thoughts of infidelity have crossed your mind and your sex life continues to dwindle, you need to take action.
If you wish to learn how to save your marriage, you need to make an effort to rekindle a passionate marriage sex life. If you've never taken pleasure in intercourse, it's time to explore your options. Sex therapy with a skilled Christian marriage counseling professional may be the solution. Be creative, finding ways to introduce romance into your lives. Get away together and make your love life a primary focus. Bridge the gap between you and find comfort in each other.
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